Do you feel all mixed up?
Feeling confused and unable to process your emotions? Or not sure what to believe and from who and what to do about it? More importantly struggling to make sense out of right and wrong inside you?
At times like these it’s easy to look outside yourself for the answers. Going over everything that’s happened and who is involved and acting all Sherlock Holmes in detecting how on Earth you have ended so mixed up and all over the place.
But, it’s not on the outside where you will discover the real reason your head is spinning. It’s on the inside. And that’s why you keep bouncing around feeling you know why one minute your emotions are on a rollercoaster ride and then the very next moment you’re brought right back to Earth without a clue. The good news is there’s nothing wrong with you. Your are just so trapped in a mixture of everyone else’s views, opinions, standards, and values that you can’t see the wood for the trees to be able to get to your own.
Knowing Yourself.
When you were growing up all manner of people gave you advice and insight on how to best live life – parents, family, authority figures like teachers or coaches, peer groups, friends, even your local community and society itself. Without realising it you absorbed this like a sponge without ever asking yourself how YOU believed life should be lived. YOUR beliefs, standards, values, and principles got put on the backburner meaning knowing yourself took a back seat.
Trouble is you can’t switch off those you own even if they are deep within you. They are part of you, they are your DNA, your blueprint as a human, your emotional centre. If you don’t open them up and connect to them they sit in the background whispering and bothering you but YOU NEVER KNOW WHY.
Suddenly situations develop and you don’t know what to make of them. What you have been taught simply doesn’t fit with what’s before your eyes and as you haven’t honoured (or perhaps were allowed to in the past!) your personal ethics and moral compass, you end up all mixed up unsure of which way up or down is or where to turn for good or bad.
A Beautiful Mix.
So unmix yourself. Now is the time to get back to you. To finally accept what matters most to you from standards to behaviours, choices to actions, feelings to have and the way to treat others. Knowing yourself is the best relationship you can ever have in your life. And the one that will solve pretty much any problem you could ever have.
Prioritise the right way to live and be that feels right within you. Take onboard the well meaning input of others since you were born, but it’s firmly all about your self awareness of right and wrong as a person living THEIR life that is the key.
Because your are the perfect mix of human emotions and preferences and viewpoints that make you…well, YOU.
And that’s the only person you ever have to be!!
Five thoughts, ideas, insights, or quotes to power up your mind to think differently and creatively about life and the future. Put all previous thinking away and open up a brand new world of the supermind.
This week – questions
Your super 5 about questions for your mind to play with. Let go, be free….stretch your mind.
In modern life everyone wants to speak, to be a voice that is heard, to have their opinion shared and agreed with or followed. This is killing the art of one high quality communication, learning, and understanding – the use of questions. Here at SMT I am bringing that back for SuperMind Saturday.
- The greatest shift with questioning begins with self questioning. And so, if you have never done before, answer this question to yourself. Why do you think the way you do?
- You have been given the ability to bring all the most powerful leaders of the world into a room to ask them one question for the good of humanity that they must answer. What is the question you would ask them?
- Wisdom comes in questions as it forces us to get to the truth or face reality. What is the greatest question you have ever been asked?
- The past often haunts us and the people that came with it. To that end you may have a burning question you want to ask someone from back then. But, if they are no longer alive or able to respond then…how are you going to move on so you are happy and not living in old pain, hurt, or confusion anymore?
- Kubra Sait said, ‘Asking questions is the first way to begin change’. How can we ask more questions of each other to change the world for the better?
That’s Supermind Saturday for this week. Keep asking yourself these through the week to open up more of your mind to evolve its untapped power. Questioning is good and wise (more so if you listen to the answers!). Consider more, reflect more, think more, activate your connection to your personal mind more.
See you next time for more super thinking.
‘Have you seen the latest blockbuster film?
That’s a question that goes round every office workplace or friends group every week. It might be the latest big Hollywood movie or the hot drama show drawing in the viewers on TV. It’s a leading question that most fall for.
If films or TV series aren’t your thing and you respond, ‘No, not seen it…and probably won’t’, you will be met with shocked looks and the classic retort, ‘You HAVEN’T seen? Everyone has watched it!’. Not everyone, you haven’t. You have become one of the people who don’t do things. Things that everyone else does because, well, everyone else, is too.
Now, that’s a challenge because us humans are tribal. It all began in our prehistoric times. With few human beings on the planet then survival depended on joint efforts. As a group they combined together to catch food, stay safe, form relationships, forge unity, and procreate. That ethic was forged into their mentality – the lone person is at risk, unsupported, out on their own, and their future is grim.
The backdrop has changed (there are no T-Rex’s roaming outside or woolly Mammoth’s to snare for dinner), but the principal remains to this day both mentally and emotionally. Be part of the group, or be exiled as a outcast never to be able to return, talked about and ridiculed. Which is why centuries later we all go to the same hit movie because everyone else is just like we all wore sabre tooth jewellery back in Neanderthal days as they were cool and popular. Our psychology is still prehistoric. We want to fit it, we want to be part of the tribe.
The Road Less Travelled.
Poet Robert Frost in his epic work, The Road Not Taken’, wrote the immortal lines, ‘Two roads diverged in a wood and I – I took the one less travelled by and that has made all the difference’. His poem is an allegory – the road is our lives and which route we choose to go ‘when we can’t see the wood for the trees’, i.e. the way ahead is not clear. Most do not take the road less travelled. The tribe walks the other path.
But Steve Jobs did in his thinking and design for the I-Phone. Dick Fosbury did in his jumping style in the high jump. Clarice Cliff did in her brand of art deco styled ceramics. And Pablo Picasso certainly did in his surreal art. They and many other outliers and renegades were people who DIDN’T do things others did. They never cared about mammoth hair as a fashion statement or T-Rex claws to eat their meals with. And they wouldn’t be in the cinema line to find out what the fuss is about at the movies or catching every episode of TV’s big ratings buster just so they can be part of the chat over the watercooler.
They are people who don’t do things others do, they do things they do. Backing that up they think how they do, see what they see, believe what they believe, and choose roads other don’t. It makes them happily individual in a tribe of one. If you look at most truly stand out people who have made and left a mark on this world, that’s what they have done too. They did only themselves. And that led to a blockbuster life that could be a movie itself!
How is it time in your life that you didn’t do what others do?
Five thoughts, ideas, insights, or quotes to power up your mind to think differently and creatively about life and the future. Put all previous thinking away and open up a brand new world of the supermind.
This week – communication.
Your super 5 about communication for your mind to play with. Let go, be free….stretch your mind.
Communication is at the heart of all we do as humankind, it’s how we connect, evolve, understand, share, love and more. It is what we do everyday but can we begin to communicate in new ways or communicate differently? Let’s ask your supermind.
- Modern current day communication is super fast, instant and like lightening delivered across the globe in a blink of an eye. It’s no surprise because we live at breakneck speed, are always on the go, and all at 24 hours a day these days. Think of 5 benefits to all of us of NOT being able to communicate in a millisecond, having to wait a while instead such as half a day.
- The Internet is where we find out about the world and all we could want, like, and need. It brings the world closer in the click of a button. But, what if the internet was broken and unfixable or banned. How would we all communicate like we do now?
- In recent times, due to social media, communication has become more abusive and even threatening. What one rule should there be around the world in relation to all communication and how would that work?
- To help reduce costs and regulate the online world, every second month there will be no social media and the internet will only be available to businesses. How would you communicate with your best friends and loved ones?
- Quote: ‘I like people who refuse to speak until they are ready to speak’, Lillian Hellman. In the world today everyone has something to say, we all want our opinion heard. That may be you too. So, ask yourself WHY you speak? (And that’s not a DUH question, look for the reason behind why you speak the ways you do (think emotions!).
That’s Supermind Saturday for this week. Keep asking yourself these through the week to open up more of your mind to evolve its untapped power. Consider more, reflect more, think more, activate your connection to your personal mind more.
See you next time for more super thinking.
We all know a four letter word or two.
We probably have a few favourites too.
But did you know there is a four letter word that underpins every successful person, product, or business?
As soon as you read that you probably thought of a few four letter words. But it’s true.
That four letter word is….IDEA.
Ok, I know I have tricked you but I needed to get your attention. That’s because millions of people over the years have had incredible ideas for businesses or products and even for their own futures, but never did anything about them because they were just an idea.
But it’s never JUST an idea. That word is one of the best four letter words ever. Everything we use in our lives came first from an idea. It’s the original source. An idea, a flash of vision, a concept, something that has legs that is different, new, ground breaking, and even lucrative. That simple idea built upon and developed grows and grows until it’s a living shiny come to life item of success.
Coffee anyone?
Starbucks was formed by two teachers and a writer to put a coffee shop on a corner of every city that came out of an idea to simply share coffee made from fresh beans with others. Subway, the take out sandwich store, evolved from the founder’s love of subs which they thought would be a great snack to keep travellers on the go. And more famously Ralph Lauren started his brand because he had an idea that many men would look suave and sharp just like he felt when wearing more bolder, colourful ties.
None of the above and heaps more other big successes had any proof it would work but they gave the idea a chance and ran with it. And ran with it all the way to the bank. So take a leaf out of their book. Polish up those ideas you have and start doing something about them. Let them loose and see where they take you. Nokia started life as a single paper mill operation that morphed into the mega million earning mobile/cell phone manufacturer. Wouldn’t have happened if those pieces of wood didn’t get cut to begin with.
And if you do open up your ideas so that they can be turned into a success, you might be shouting lots of four letter words in happiness the day you hit the jackpot.
