Why You Don’t Hate Your Job.

Do you hate your job?

Is that the phrase you tell your friends and is the one in your head?

Well, if it is, it’s not true.

The big word that fills your mind and feelings is hate. You have told yourself that you can no longer put up with the manager’s poor leadership or your colleagues lack of standards or perhaps it’s the public and their incessant complaining and lack of patience or the unsociable hours are getting to you.

All of these seem valid at making the role far from enjoyable, but you DON’T hate your job.

Why? Your mindset is focused on the elements in your life that aren’t good or missing and it keeps nagging away at you about these because it’s become set at finding fault in things. As work is the prime time consumer and energy taker in your life, it gets thrown the lions share of dissatisfaction from your mind. It’s also pretty much a daily occurrence in your world so that doubles the blame attached to it for ruining everything or holding you back.

Those negative beliefs grow and magnify and where once Jane’s usual lateness on a Monday morning as traffic is often worse her side of town, has now become a fully blown anger in your mind about her and how typical it is with others in this job. It’s been blown waaaaay out of proportion. Annoyance evolves over time into plain hate.

Where does this come from then? FROM YOU!

The Missing Potential.

Underneath it all you are working in a role far beneath your true ability not to mention your actual worth. But you can’t see it or most likely, can’t accept this as true. You have devalued yourself and taken a job that doesn’t represent half the talent and skills that you possess. Your own lack of self belief has directed you to lower the level you could and should operate at in your career plus the lesser salary and conditions that comes with it.

Hence you are not hating the job but simply picking at everything because it’s not where you want to be…..because you are not being WHO you want to be. But it’s your beliefs that are preventing you from living up to your own potential not the computer’s being slow again or the coffee machine taking too long to warm up in the morning. They are the scapegoats for your self sabotage.

You don’t hate your job. You dislike where you are probably in work, perhaps in life status, and maybe even in relationships or family. And you do that because you don’t have sufficient self worth to elevate yourself to a job or scenario that matches your real unique self.

So while you think about what those beliefs are that are keeping you small I’ll also leave you with one big question.

What great thing about yourself do you really ‘hate’ that everyone else can see (and have probably mentioned to you many times)?

Because if there is anything you hate, it’s that you hate you have done nothing about it.

And Mike’s terrible aftershave will never be the reason!